exim deffering mail for no reason

[felosi]

exim is delaying peoples mail on my server. It does it every once in a while and restarting it usually helps. Then again sometimes it does it with established accounts too with a 5minute to 2 hour delay. Here is one of my customers who set up some new accounts, this is the error he got. please help me fuix this, I can lose customers over this. I have not done anything to the mail besides install spamassasin.

Jul 15 13:36:42 wanderer sendmail[13117]: k6FHaeKc013115:
to=<webmaster@recdyn.com>, ctladdr=<tobey@wheelockweb.com> (500/500),
delay=00:00:02, xdelay=00:00:02, mailer=esmtp, pri=120461,
relay=mail.wheelockweb.com. [65.23.154.218], dsn=4.0.0, stat=Deferred:
Connection reset by mail.wheelockweb.com.

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How high is the mail traffic and server load ?
Have you tryed with standard exim.conf ?

[felosi]

real low traffic. Dont have many sites at all. How can I get the standard exim conf? Well Ill look around for it.
I updated it tonight, I hope it will help

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http://files.directadmin.com/services/exim.conf
On a certain amount, or if any problem, mail goes deferred.
Have you DNS problem ? Seems mail ip is not the same.
And your second mx goes timeout.
No problem with antivirus or mailscanner ?
You can kill processes and restart.

[felosi]

yeah lost that guy over it.
its just delaying mail for like an hour here, 2 hours there. I dont understand it.
Shouldnt have no dns problems, I have rdns as well.
The guy above he did just move that domain to my server so that may have been it, dont know but it has done this before with domains thats been there a while.